That's what happens when babies are having babies (when you're too young you don't know that you're too young)

My worth wrapped up in people pleasing tiny humans in a non reciprocal dynamic (rightly so) 

That became so normalized, it spread to every other dynamic until I was depleted and I mean even years after diagnosis,  which means I likely contributed to my own decline by giving giving giving and ignoring my own needs. 

By the time my kids were grown,  only parasitic relationships remained. I was by now too ill to give. The scattering was swift.  I learned my place VERY quickly as one does when it's learned the hard way.  Yikes.  

That's the way life teaches 🤷‍♀️